You would have to be living under a rock if you follow any type of social media and have not seen the debacle between Khloe Kardashian, Tristian Thompson and Jordyn Woods. It is a real mess. However there are some lessons to be learned in the process and words of wisdom for yours truly.
First of all the relationship with Khloe and Tristian has been problematic from its inception. Whatever the situation was between Tristan and his then girlfriend when he met Khloe, the fact of the matter is that he was attached. My grandmother often said “Be careful how you get a man because the same way you get him can be the way you lose him”. Well in my opinion Tristian has been trying to lose Khloe for some time.
He was blatantly caught cheating a few days before she gave birth to their child, baby momma number 2 with a cheating scandal during her pregnancy. He has a pattern and his is consistent. It seems that not only was there handwriting, there were handprints on the wall. I feel that he just did not care. There is a lot to be said for relationships and situationships, without being married. Khloe, you cannot force a man into a domestic relationship he is not ready for and Tristian is definitely not ready.
Jodryn, the young misguided 21 year old party girl, did what party girls do. Out and about with the ‘in’ crowd and drinking and having ‘fun’. Normally, there would be no accountability, no repercussions and no drama had she been with anyone else than a man attached to a Kardashian.
Now before I go further, don’t get me wrong. I am in no way defending Jordyn, for so many reasons her choices were wrong, but they were her choices. We will get to the Red Table Talk in a minute. Also, I am not bashing Khloe as a matter of fact Khloe was my favorite of the sisters next to Kendall. Khloe was the one who seemed most grounded to me andI have followed her from the show to her Cocktails with Khloe show to Khloe and Lamar. I was always team Khloe, even when she decided to give Tristan another change after the whole, ‘cheating while pregnant’ scandal. I felt for her because I have been cheated on and I know the pain, hurt and heartache that comes with cheating. I cannot imaging enduring this and having a baby at the same time. It was awful, but I also have to wonder did she have any remorse when Tristan’s other baby mama was laboring with his firstborn. You know what they saw about Karma…
The reality about Tristan is he is what happens when men are irresponsible with their d*&%s. He is from the camp where a few minutes of satisfaction can result in a lifetime of hurt, he just hasn’t felt the hurt yet. He is also the product of men who have not learned how to deal with their fame. There are so many more social issues he has and he is not a client so I can’t help him work through all those issues, but I do offer complimentary consultations.
Now back to Jordyn, I believe her time at the Red Table was sincere and I believe she was telling the truth. I believe in that moment when she decided to go to the party and stay while being under the influence was a big, big mistake. And I think she now realizes it. I think Will, Jada and Gammy, where spot on with their advice and I think that she learned a powerful lesson. Good that she learned it at 21 some women get to their 40’s and beyond before they learn. I also think that I took her to really grow in that moment to tell her side of the truth. I would like to think that this was a blessing in disguise for her. She doesn’t have to be the Shirley to Kylie’s Laverne anymore. She is a beautiful young lady, a talented model with a portfolio, and that alone can sustain her through this situation.
The reality is that Tristan is still a hormonal teenager with a grown mans body and a grown mans money. Khloe is still that little girl looking for her fairytale ending, but who won’t find it until she is able to find True (no pun intended) happiness within herself. Jordyn, is a young girl learning the consequences of the fast and furious lifestyle and the game that she was not intended to play, without her sponsors permission. Jordyn may also be missing that father figure in her life that can talk to her openly or honestly about what happens when you surround yourself with snakes or men who don’t really give a damn about you.
To the fans, stop taking these peoples lives so personally like they are related to you. They are not.
The lesson for Khloe here is that when people show you who they are believe them the first time. For Jordyn and Khloe, you are the first and best example of how people get to treat you and both of you both were treated as disposable cargo by the people who claimed to love you. Tristan, you need to seek help for your possible sex addiction before you end up with a woman like Lorena Bobbit or better yet end up on an episode of Snapped.
At the end of the day, it is also important to know that you all can heal. You have to be open to it and ready to do the work to make healing happen. Khloe, it may be time for you to move on and make sure you have that child support order on file, now before he is traded or hurt and the terms of the contract changes. Jordyn, stand on your own two feet girl and pull your portfolio together, get you a bomb ass therapist, agent, and PR team and live your best life.
Be Blessed, Be Fabulous,
Dr Sharice 